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A Big Life (Don't Fear the Student Loans)

A Big Life (Don't Fear the Student Loans) →

"Sugar" addresses a young adult who's worried and angry about having to start paying for her own student loans. Sugar's response was a great way to say what absolutely needed to be said.

Your parents helped you pay for your undergraduate education while you were a student and, presuming you didn’t graduate at 25 (a presumption which may or may not be correct), they also paid your monthly loan bill during the years immediately following your graduation. They’ve declined to continue to pay not because they wish to punish you, but because doing so would be difficult for them. This strikes me as perfectly reasonable and fair. You are an educated adult of sound mind, able body and resilient spirit who has absolutely no reason not to be financially self-sufficient, even if doing so requires you to earn money in ways you find unpleasant.

You say you’re grateful to your parents for helping you pay for your undergraduate education, but you don’t sound grateful to me. Almost every word in your letter tells me that you’re pissed off that you’re being required to take over your student loan payments. I point this out because I think it’s important that you acknowledge your anger for what it is. It does not rise out of gratitude. It rises out of the fact that you feel entitled to your parents’ money. You’re simply going to have to come to grips with the fact that you aren’t.

Her point is that working hard, working unpleasantly, will give you a big life that you can't get any other way. Hard work isn't a punishment, it's an opportunity. Don't squander it through self-pity and anger.

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